Pictures for Maximizing your child's potential : Preparing for exam

Ice-breaker is always fun and help everyone to
feel more relax and at ease.

Dr Agnes Tan's practical knowledge and relevant
examples in the subject field was enriching and

Group Discussion help parents to share their
understanding of the subject.


Pictures for Understanding your child's learning styles (English)

Ice-breaker : A short game for parents to know each other a little.

Speaker: Steven Tan
Sharing his experiences and knowledge in this topic.
Parents have a better understanding on how to help their
children after this talk!

Pictures for Understanding your child's learning styles (Mandarin)

Speaker: Jason Ng

Parents are attentive and showed great interest during the talk.

Although the class size is small, it's warm and more personal.

Pictures from 5 Love Languages course

Alice in action.
Attentive Class
Truly focused
Enjoying the learning curve
In deep thought
Love Language....
A course much enjoyed.


School Family Education Programme.

We want to praise God for giving us the opportunity to start the School Family Education (SFE) in the school. SFE was launched on 2 April, 2010 and its centre is in operation in the current AGAPE room which is now known as the SFE Centre.

SFE is one of the recommendations of Family Matters Singapore(FMS), previously known as Public Education Committee on Family (PEC).

SFE adopts a holistic family learning model – equipping parents with effective parenting skills and training them to be parent facilitators, helping the staff of the school to enhance their familylife, and providing students with life skills training.

The parent-child relationship has much impact on the child’s academic achievements and positive attitudes / behaviour, regardless of socio-economic status, ethnic/ racial background or parents’ education level.

With support from North West, South East and South West CDCs, and Fei Yue CounsellingCentre, SFE was piloted in Nanyang and Temasek Primary Schools, and Bartley andCommonwealth Secondary Schools in January 2002. SFE was launched by Dr YaacobIbrahim, then Acting Minister for Community Development and Sports on 15 April 2002.

SFE has been well received by parents and participating schools. Since 2002, it has reached close to 2 million people. As at 2010, there are 227 schools in the SFE programme.

Transition 2 Secondary 1, Date: 22 May 2010 (Sat), Time: 2pm - 5.30pm.

Date: 22nd May 2010

Time: 2:00 pm – 5:30 pm

Venue: 743 Hersing Hub,Victory Hall, Level 8,

Fee: $5.00 per person

Choosing a Secondary School and Supporting Your Child in the Secondary School
Learn how experienced parents help their children choose a secondary school and support them in this important transition. You will also gain some parenting tips from the sharing.

The Secondary School Education System
A school principal will share what your child will be learning and the different learning routes available. The recent changes to the education system and how they will affect your children will also be discussed.

Tune In to Your Teenage Child’s Frequency and Make These Challenging Years The Best Years
The teenage years has been described as the best and the worst. Parenting a teenager can be like riding a roller coaster. One moment they appear to be mature enough to make decisions and the next moment they can be as childish as a preschooler. It seems that your teenager has changed overnight without giving you any warning. So what is happening? Learn how you can connect with your teenager from parenting expert, Charis Patrick.

Five Love Languages, Date: 15 May 2010 (Sat)

This talk is for P1-P4's Parents

Five Love Languages

Presented by

Alice Lee

Author, ‘Building Bridges with Your Teenagers’

Have you tried doing your best to love and connect with your children only to be told, ‘you don’t love me’?

To love and to be loved speaks differently from one generation to another. So – what’s this generation’s love language like and how can we love them the way that would made them feel loved?


Importance of love language
The different kinds of love language
How to discover your child’s love language
Practical tips on how to use love language to build relationship with your children

Venue: Geylang Methodist Sch (Pri)

Dated: 15 May 10 (Sat)

Time: 9 am – 12 noon

Fee: $6/person - Light refreshment will be provided (Halal)

Understanding your child's learning styles (2 Languages), Date: 10 July 2010 (Sat), Time: 9am-12pm

Each child is unique and special, and approaches learning in a way best suited to him/herself. As a parent, how do you identify your child’s learning style? What do you do to help your child be a better learner?

Being aware of your child’s learning style can reduce homework battles and strengthen parent-child relationships.

Content of this parenting talk includes:

Knowing the learning styles: VAK, MI

About the Speaker: Mr STEVEN TAN

Steven is trained as a Counsellor and a Family Life Educator. He holds a Master of Social Science in Counseling from University of South Australia, and a Graduate Certificate in Parent Education Leadership Training (PELT) from Swinburne University, Australia. He is also a US-PTR (Professional Tennis Registry) certified tennis coach. Steven is a part-time lecturer for the Diploma in Counselling Skills for Edith Cowan University.
Over the last 20 years Steven has worked with children, campus students and youth, singles, marrieds and parents in Singapore, Malaysia and Indonesia because of his passion in promoting strong and resilient families. Steven excels in many areas of sports and is a fun-loving family man who loves organizing both indoor and outdoor activities.

Steven is happily married and has 2 wonderful teenagers, a boy & a girl. As a father, he can relate to the many issues parents face.







Speaker: Jason Ng

Roller Blading, Date: 4 Sep 2010 (Sat) for P3-P4 Only

Roller blading is a lifestyle sport which, once it is learnt, stays with the person throughout his life. Skates are easy to pack and lightweight to carry around. Thus it can be done anytime, anywhere, even when your family goes holidaying abroad!

Learning skating is a very fun process which greatly enhances parent-child bonding. The child sees the parent learning something new and learn a very valuable lesson – that life is a journey where learning never stops, regardless of age.

Mastery of skating, which seems so difficult, is a booster for confidence. It spills over into other aspects of family life – that if you keep trying despite the many falls, success can be achieved.

Of course, safety is paramount and that’s why a full set of protective gear is provided during the course of the lesson. As weird as this may sound, trainers will teach you how to fall. That’s right, fall.

Spills and tumbles are all part of the course when it comes to inline skating – but there’s a proper way to do it without injuring yourself. With protective gear and the correct technique, you’ll be skating safely, and smoothly in no time.

Tentative Programme:

Registration/ Gears Collection
Rollerblading Time
R & R – Refreshments

Maximizing your child's potential "Preparing for examination", Date: 14 Aug 2010 (Sat)

This can be the dreaded time of year for some school-going children—it is exam time!! Parents and child alike may feel stress and anxiety, and this may affect the parent-child relationship. Research has shown that parental involvement influences a child’s behaviour, self-esteem and performance in school. How do you go about partnering your child during this exam period, so that they can maximize their potential ?

Content of this informative & interactive parenting talk includes:

· Identifying & nurturing your child’s potential

· Understanding difference between ability, motivation and attitude

· practical examination preparation techniques and study skills

· Coping with Stress


Marriage Central Resource Point

The first Marriage Central Resource Point, located at the Jurong Regional Library, serves as a friendly and convenient resource hub for soon-to-wed and married couples to pick up marriagerelated resources and information. Besides providing easy access to these resources, the resource point will have Marriage Central staff on hand to answer any queries couples may have, help them sign up for marriage education programmes, and make referrals to marriage counsellors.

Operating hours of the Resource Point:
Mondays to Sundays: 10am – 9pm (excluding Public Holidays)
Contact Details of Marriage Central @ Jurong:
Contact number: 6896 2146
How to get there?
The Resource Point is located at Jurong Regional Library, 3rd floor, 21 Jurong East Central 1,
Singapore 609732.

Essential Parenting Tips

A parenting handbook that aims to provide parents with easy reference on tips to managing their children. Interesting parenting topics are discussed in this handbook to help parents better understand their children and establish a closer parent-child relationship. Topics include the imparting of values, managing misbehaviour in your child, and helping your child build self-confidence and cope with stress.
(Click on the book to download)

Managing Parent-Teen Conflict

As a parent, getting along with your teenager can sometimes be challenging. Parent-teen conflicts, as it turns out, are pretty common. So, why do parents and teens clash? What do they fight about and what's a parent to do when faced with such a situation?
(Click on the book to download)

Booklet: Love Them. Talk About Sex.

A guide to help parents communicate with their children on sexuality issues.
(click on the book to download)

Family Types

Although every family is unique, there are significant similarities between all families. There are

three characteristic types or patterns that are observable: Autocratic, Permissive and Nurturing

family types.

The Autocratic Family

This is where one or both parents rule the family with absolute authority. Here the parenting style is rigid, domineering, allowing very little freedom or responsibility for the children. Children are pressured to fit into a mould determined by parent(s) with punishment and rewards. Such children struggle to think, feel, believe, and even dream independently outside their parents wishes. As a result, the children have serious difficulties establishing their independent self identities as they grow up. Rules in autocratic families tend to be inflexible, inappropriate, and rigidly enforced. Unquestioning obedience rather than healthy development is fostered. Such children tend to have a weak self-ego, co-dependent on others, emotionally delicate and


The Permissive Family

Permissive families reject the harsh and uncompromising stance of autocratic parenting styles, preferring not to accept responsibility for creating a mould for the children to conform. Instead they are encouraged to chart their own course and do their own thing. Little emphases are given to family order and routine. Consequently, few boundaries are drawn leading to inconsistencies in family relationships and loose family ties. As a result the children are confused, leading to their insecurity and poor socialisation abilities. Whereas autocratic families have too much control andtoo little freedom, permissive families have too much freedom and too little control. This can be a very confusing environment for a child.

The Nurturing Family

Nurturing families place a high value on freedom, equality, and responsibility. The primary focus is on meeting individual needs of all family members and promoting their personal growth and development. Family rules in nurturing families are both flexible and appropriate as they are consistently maintained. Personal freedom is encouraged but with limits to proper consideration for others. This builds healthy ego boundaries and socialisation skills amongst the members.

Family types are not static but dynamic. At any given moment a family might assume a structure that includes the characteristics of one or more of the 3 family types, ensuring that family rules mirror the typical changes in the family structure and according to the developmental stages in their children's lives.

Reflection pointers...

1. What do you think is your family type? Autocratic, permissive or nurturing? Is it appropriate and effective in promoting healthy developments in your children?

2. What adjustments do you think you would like to make, if any, to further improve the development of well-being and socialisation for your family today? You may wish to

discuss your thoughts with your spouse and later with the whole family for greater

participation from them as you seek to promote healthy growth through the stages of life

for them.

Action pointers...

1. Set up a family spring cleaning this weekend. Assign tasks appropriate to the age of your children, giving them „total responsibility and „dependence on them doing this part of the cleaning. Praise them for a job well done and have a reward meal for dinner.

2. Hold a post new year party for your child /children and have them invite their friends.

This will allow you an insight into their friends and their world.

For more information on Centre for Fathering Ltd, visit or email

This article "Family Types” by Mr Philip Chang is extracted from Fathering Matters, contributed by Centre for Fathering Ltd. We would like to thank Centre For Fathering Ltd for contributing this article.

Quote from Parent's about SFE

Quotes from Parents:

"It's a very good programme. Balances and widens your horizon on aspects of parenting."

"The school designed the family life corner like a instead of loitering outside school, the students spend time interacting with friends. Friendships are nurtured."

Quotes from Schools:

"It’s because of these talks that the parents come to schools more often, not to complain. They see that there’s a closer connection."

"The parents see the school as looking after them, giving them confidence to tackle issues. It’s like meeting their needs in life."

"Staff wellbeing means that you want a healthy teacher whose family wellness is taken care of. They benefit from this programme."

Quotes from Students:

"We can understand our parents and what they are feeling because we can see from their point of view."

"You have better appreciation for aims and goals. You learn that you cannot do things last minute."

"We talk about our life and learn how to handle our stress."

"I like the money management workshop that is conducted like an adventure game. It was fun!"


This article " The Tweenage Years ” is a dapted from ‘Tween Ages by Focus on Your Child’ and reprinted with permission from Focus on the Family Singapore. We would like to thank Focus on the Family Singapore Ltd ( ) for contributing this article.

Tweenagers – a currently fashionable marketing term for pre-teens, between 7 and 11. They are more worldly-wise, fashion-conscious and media-aware than children of this age used to be, and are growing up faster. Kids at this age are articulate, confident and fun-loving and at best; still fairly unaffected by the hormonal angst of the rebellious teenager!

Being a parent to tweenagers is the most wonderful privilege and the most daunting task as well. Stretched beyond more than what you’ve attempted before, you have a huge task ahead. The kid before you still has that sense of wonderment and interest in what you have to impart. They appreciate your hugs and kisses and thrive on your affirmations and encouragement. You can still direct their routines and plant suggestions along their way without meeting much resistance. In short, it can be most rewarding and fulfilling experience if you put in effort – loads of it!

This is also a critical age when the parent can set the foundation of his growing years right. The child is now able to tap on his increasing maturity to understand his emotions and empathise with others. He is fairly adept at analyzing hypothetical situations and hence you can seek his opinion on what is right and wrong. Likewise, he is able to choose an appropriate course of action based on logic and moral understanding without childish wilfulness.

Try these tips in discussing tough topics with your tween:

  • Let tweens start the talk
  • Encourage them to ask questions
  • Don’t lecture
  • Don’t simplify
  • Tell the truth
  • Listen to what tweens are asking
  • Address only what is asked
  • Wait for them to form more questions
  • Guide them through emotions
  • Let tweens know that you’re always there to listen and talk

Remember that you’ll never be the perfect parent and tweenagers aren’t standard issues that are neatly packaged into clean, compliant and ace students. There are no short cuts to being a good parent nor is there a secret formula that spells successful kids. In short, parenting is about hard work, perseverance and determination and above all – unconditional love.


The SFE aims to help bond families and individuals (namely, parents, pupils and staff) through programmes and activities approved by MCYS.

The SFE hopes to enhance the quality of family life and indirectly also impact the positive growth of the children in the school. Therefore, we hope to have your full support and participation on the SFE programmes and activities.

Benefits of SFE

The programmes and activities under SFE are of high quality and evaluation from participants showed that they experienced considerable improvements in their family life after attending SFE programmes.

For Parents

  • Better understanding of their children.
  • Better parent-child (family) relationships.
  • An opportunity to be an FLE advocate and to participate in parent support groups.

For Students

  • Development into socially adept individuals equipped with positive life skills.

For School Staff

  • Better equipped and hence better performance as their personal needs are taken care of.

For School

  • An ideal environment for learning and working
  • Better parent-school relationship
  • Happier staff.

For Community
  • Benefit from a value-added image as an ideal place to raise a family
  • Increase community bonding and pride

Features of SFE

1. Family Learning
A family that learns together grows together. Therefore, SFE Programmes are designed and planned to promote better parent-child understanding through talks, workshops and activities.

2. Training Parents to be Facilitators
Under SFE, parent volunteers are trained to become parent facilitators. They will
provide guidance to other parents and help to facilitate workshops and support groups
that aim to impart positive parenting skills.

3. School Staff’s Family Wellness
The school staff is also members of families. SFE will provide them with programme
to help them better manage work and family life. Enhanced family life will translate
into higher productivity for the school.

4. Students’ Programme
SFE empowers students with positive values to empower them in their relationships
with others, and thereby facilitate their growth into responsible adults.